Valentine’s Day!
Let me start by stating the obvious, today is Valentine’s Day. If you don’t believe me simply look out your window, cubicle, or at the most recent posts to your Facebook newsfeed. All around us today couples will be falling all over each other, clouds of red and pink ribbons and balloons will block our line of sight, and disenchanted anti-Valentine’s Day people will discuss the materialistic, shallow values that the day represents.
But love is not a day in February. Nor does Valentine’s Day have to focus on glorifying the fabricated pedestal on which society places the idea of “coupledom”. The love we share for our family, friends and significant others is not measured by the size of the teddy bear or cost of the red box of chocolates they purchased– it will be 75% off tomorrow…
For some, love will last a lifetime, and for others, love will last only a fleeting Virginia winter; that is something a bouquet of the most beautiful roses won’t change. Instead I believe that love starts from within– a clichéd statement, I am aware, but maybe not in the way you are currently thinking.
Today is the day we openly declare our love, scream it from the rooftops, and risk rejection by that girl/guy in the cubicle near the water cooler. But in our rush to propel our emotions outward, we’ve failed to take a quite literal, introverted gaze.
How can we stare longingly into the eyes of our beloved, or begin that “defining the relationship” conversation when one in two Americans under the age 25 currently has a sexually transmitted infection (STI)? And because the most common symptom for STIs is to have no signs or symptoms at all, most people are unaware of their status.
Unlike flower deliveries and dinner reservations made today, our personal sexual health can dictate the rest of our lives. For some women, if left untreated, STIs like gonorrhea and Chlamydia can silently wipe out a reproductive future, dashing hopes of one day having children. Not even on Valentine’s Day will you receive a teddy bear or card with a disclaimer for what your next intimate partner may carry.
I’m not saying that you should skip out on that romantic dinner or not complain until the clock strikes midnight on February 15th. Update your current relationship status, buy yourself a beautiful bouquet of your favorite flowers– then this Valentine’s Day, make the decision to get yourself and your partner(s) tested. For yourself, your current love, or the love that waits in your future, “I know my status” is the new “I love you”.

Keiana Mayfield, Community Health Educator, PPHS-CVL